We like to think that marriage is forever, but all relationships have their ups and downs and sometimes two people discover too late that they were never meant to be together. But rather that chuck the towel in and walk away, it is important to at least try and mend your relationship and salvage what you once had, so read on for some advice on how to save a failing marriage and get your relationship back on the right path.
How to save a failing marriage
The only way to save a failing marriage is to talk to each other, either face to face, or with the help of a third party counsellor. Communication will help you both gain a greater understanding of what the real issues are—you might be angry that he never says he loves you, but he might be angry that you never show him any respect. Unfortunately, if communication has broken down entirely, neither of you will appreciate why the other is upset.
Whether you think your marriage is worth saving (or not) might depend on why you are having problems. Infidelity is a common cause of marriage breakdown and if this is your issue, you may have to think long and hard about why the infidelity occurred and what you can do to regain some of the trust that has been lost. You marriage can be saved, but only if you are both prepared to put in an awful lot of work to repair the damage.
Do you still love your partner?
If the love is still there, you have a good chance of salvaging your relationship. When two people still love each other, the problems that have led to the marriage breakdown are not insurmountable, so have faith in your feelings for each other and keep the lines of communication open.
Do you respect your partner?
Respect is crucial for the success of any relationship. Always show respect for your partner, especially in front of your children and other people. A continual lack of respect will undermine any love you have for each other and eventually the relationship will turn sour.
How to save a relationship while separated
Sometimes a break from each other and the relationship is what is needed to remember the things that brought you together in the first place, but if your partner has asked for a break in order to make it easier for them to walk away, it is probably too late to save the marriage. However, let’s assume that there is still hope, so use your time apart to gain some perspective before you meet up to talk things through. Hopefully some time alone will help you both realise the marriage is worth saving.
How to save a failing marriage alone
It usually takes two people to save a marriage, so if you are the only one trying to sort things out, it is going to be a long uphill struggle. However, there are still benefits to be had from attending some counselling sessions alone, so don’t give up and use your time to work through what might be the reasons behind your failing marriage. If nothing else, at least it will give you a greater insight and help prevent you from making similar mistakes second time around.